Many of us have that one “friend.” You know, the one who can outdo, outlast, outbig anything we do? If you ran 5 miles, she ran 15. If you broke your leg, he broke both legs and both arms. No matter what you’ve been through or done, they’ve done it bigger or lasted longer or went farther. It’s because of that friend that you look at your own story and think, “It’s not that bad.”
“My story isn’t as bad as yours,” many say to me.
Or, “I was never hit, so I realize it’s not as bad as some stories.”
Here’s the thing, the truth you need to remember: Survival isn’t a competition.
Abuse stories should never be about who had it “worse” or who “survived the hardest story.”
Peeling back layers of ourselves isn’t easy. Even when you’re among others with painful stories, it can still be hard if you’re busy wondering if your story is bad enough or if you doubt that you are worth being heard.
Your voice matters.
Starting in September, Scars and Tiaras will be featuring one story every week to help others understand the depth of abuse and assault, and your story matters.
Are you a survivor of domestic violence, child abuse, or sexual assault (any age)? If so, I’d love to interview you for an upcoming ongoing series here on ScarsandTiaras.com. Please email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Let’s be brave together. Let’s stand together and shine light into the darkness. Let us be bold and show there is courage in vulnerability, that every story matters, every person matters.