I hope you are able to release yourself of the embarrassment you are carrying. Your age does not in any way mean you should have known better. You were a victim, hurt by the hands of someone you trusted. You didn’t make him hurt you. There’s nothing you could have done that led to you “deserving it.” So I pray for peace and healing and grace for yourself as you move forward. You are beautiful!
“Domestic Violence can affect ANYONE — no matter age, race, gender, social status, sexual orientation, etc.”
It’s so easy to look at what happened to us and think we did something to deserve it. But you did NOT. You were young, you were innocent, and what happened was not OK. I hear you. I see you. And I believe you. You are not alone, and more, it will get better.
“Sexual abuse is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent. Most victims and perpetrators know each other.” –apa.org
The system is sometimes so black and white that it’s hard to fight your way through. But you’ve got this. Don’t give up, and don’t beat yourself up for what is out of your control. Just keep pressing onward. Sadly, it’s hard to break free sometimes when others are trying to hold you down, but I believe in you. You can do this!
“Women of color and low income women are disproportionately affected by mandatory arrest policies for domestic violence.” –freemarissanow.org
Sweet girl, you are sunshine and strength. I don’t think you know this. I don’t think you see how glorious you are, how much happiness you deserve. So, as you continue to struggle within the confines of your situation, I am here praying and listening when you need to talk. I hope for freedom for you — from him and from this current pain. So much more awaits you.
“Research suggests that women with disabilities are more likely to suffer domestic violence and sexual assault than women without disabilities.” –womenshealth.gov
Even when we are out, we are still in. While hands may no longer be able to harm us, memories often do. But you are so much stronger than your past, than these memories. As you continue to battle your way to healing, you are not alone. It’s a long journey, but it’s worth every step. Don’t give up!
“PTSD from abuse is characterized by symptoms such as flashbacks, intrusive imagery, nightmares, anxiety, emotional numbing, insomnia, hyper-vigilance, and avoidance of traumatic triggers.” –PsychologyToday.com
I love when I get to meet someone who uses their painful past to reach out and help others. As you travel this road, I lift you up so you can continue to be strong for those who cannot. I know you have so much to offer and so much to teach. Your story is worth telling – again and again.
“I will not allow anyone—especially the abuser—to tell me who I am!” -Unknown
You are all strong and amazing women — no matter where you are in your story.